"Love is to let those we love be perfectly themselves, and not to twist them to fit our own image... otherwise we love only the reflection of ourselves we find in them."
~~ Thomas Merton (1919 - 1968)
[Note: My thanks to Lucy Duncan for providing the source for this lovely quote. I was very disappointed when I first posted it, unable to provide the author. It's defintely worth clicking on the link to read his interesting life story.]